Once you have become something you had a great desire to be, you must bravely ask yourself, “Do I really want this?” Picture it:
Your dream is to become an award winning journalist. You constantly yammer to your parents, friends, whoever will listen to you, that this is your calling, the thing you were meant to do. You practice observing and writing things, you join the school newspaper spotlighting high school football games, you spend countless hours and moolah getting a college degree in journalism, and then you land your dream job with killer benefits and such, and everyone is so stoked for you, and…. you hate it. Every single thing about it. What’s the easy thing to do here?
When you end up disliking something that you had so much hope to love and put time and effort into, it’s tempting to ignore the fact that you don’t actually like it, and keep pushing on through it. You must decide whether this is actually something you want or not. It is what it is. If you don’t like it, move on to the next thing, and continue being content with what ya got. Within this life it isn’t about point A or point B, but it’s about the line in between. Don’t keep wasting your line on point B just because it was supposed to be your dream if it ends up being a rundown ghost town on your soul.
We often worry about what other people will think of us when we have built something up and we think they have expectations of us, but you must make the decision that is best for you, because you’re the one that has to live it. The majority of people won’t really care, and the rest won’t dwell on it too long. People have the attention spans of toddlers when it’s not something that involves them. Yeah, maybe most people won’t understand giving up on something you put a lot of time, money, and effort into, but those are the ones who settled for the mediocre. The only decisions you make that truly matter are the ones you make in relation to God. The rest are up to you kid. Don’t let others make you feel bad for them.
We never really know how we will feel about something until we are in the midst of it. Feelings are hard things to plan for. You just have to work around them like little pets that constantly get under your feet as you are trying to walk from place to place (annoying little boogers, but it’s what makes life warm and fuzzy).
If you evaluate your situation and decide it was everything you hoped it would be, then oh my goodness! Giddy jumping, pizza, pie, dance party for one, explosion of screams! Seriously reward yourself. It’s something worth celebrating whether you finally accomplished your goal of getting a fish named Fred or you opened a breakout Italian restaurant. Go buy yourself some ice cream or a cake, plan a vacation, invite your friends over with party hats and those loud blowy thingies. Celebrate! It’s fun.
Finding and achieving your dream is something many fail to do, and believe me, it’s not easy. You must have the self-confidence to recognize what you want, the bravery to take action, the endurance to keep going when it gets hard, and the ability to find contentment without it. Remember: enjoy the journey,but once you get to the destination, eat some pie.
If you’ve been keeping up with my Achieving Your Dreams posts then thanks for sticking with me! I hope I’ve helped you in at least some small way.